Self Discovery – The Starting Point for you Self Leadership


Self-discovery, also called self-confidence, precedes self-management. You cannot dominate, nor can you conduct what you do not know. As we live our life, we must fully understand ourselves. It was stated in a book that “Know thyself” is the most in-depth and best advice ever given to humanity.

You can overestimate your skills or underestimate your power if you don’t know yourself. Start with self-discovery. Nobody will come to you and tell you hey, it’s time to find out yourself. It’s a do-it-yourself job. I share a few ways about how you can know your true self.

“Ordinary” Human

Many “ordinary” men and women walk our streets every day and die in an unlived life because they never took the time to find out who they were. It is time to discover hidden talents, abilities and natural talents. Everyone can be someone.

Self-discovery begins with self-assessment and honest tests. It’s about knowing you, who you are in your heart, what you believe in and what comes up for you. It’s not about who you pretend to be or who you think you are, but who you are.

You can deceive others, but you cannot deceive yourself. It is also not about who others think and says they are. Many people live frustrated lives because they try to adapt to a shape they were never designed for. Self-discovery can be a life-long journey for some, but it’s worth it. The sooner you get involved, the sooner you start living effectively.

Create your own Reality

Some people accept the reality that is given to them instead of creating their reality. If you don’t know who your parents are, your school teacher, your village, will provide you with an identity. If they can give you a character, they can determine what you can and what you can’t do. Yes, they love you, and they mean well, but finding yourself is your responsibility.

Don’t Limit Yourself

Maybe you limit yourself to what you do at your job or what else you do for a living. You can be more and do more. You may be one of those people who once read something and were inspired to “go higher”, but the challenges of life happened and made you withdraw and slip back.

Maybe you lost income, dropped out of school, lost motivation, made your dream smaller or stopped dreaming. Don’t let circumstances and setbacks define you. Yes, you have failed, but you are not a failure.

Pick a Book and read

You may have intended to develop a skill or read good books. It is not late for you to start. I understand that the average CEO registers at least fifty books per year. It’s almost a book a week. You can also do this if you intend to gain an edge in your career or business.

Leaders are readers. There is great power in reading. You can collect twenty books this season and start reading one after the other. You don’t have to start at twenty but with a few chapters a day.

You don’t have to be exceptional to start, but you have to start being exceptional. The journey of fifty books a year begins with the first page, the chapter in which you want to sit and read. Don’t limit yourself to physical books; reading also includes listening to audiobooks, especially when you’re travelling. I have some self-growth quotes to get you started.

One last thing about Self Discovery

With all these, hopefully, you’ve been brought closer to how you can discover your true self. You have the ability to take your life in your hands and to guide yourself. It will take the initiative; you owe it to yourself. It doesn’t matter how old you are or how young you are. This is a reminder to get more. Find out, and you will thank me for it.

Some questions you can use for the self-test. Feel free to add yours.

  • What gifts and talents were I born with?
  • Your ideal job, what would it be?
  • What would you do now if you didn’t have to earn?
  • What are your values, what is important to you?
  • What do I think I was born for?

I hope the questions above will help you find the way you should be.

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