How can we start to block out—or even better, actually enjoy—someone else’s success, and not make it mean that we’re not good enough?
How can we quit with the obsessive watching and judging someone else? ‘Cause I don’t know about you, but when I’m mentally out of my business, worried about what someone else is doing, judging it, getting worked up about the unfairness of it all, it immediately takes me out of my power. I am in full-blown victim mode.
The instinct is mostly natural that’s why it’s better to master the act of not been obsessive and be contented.
1) Double on your own stuff.
What are you excited about? What can you create or take action on to put you back in your power? Can you learn a new skill? Take a trip? Read a new book? Start that book you’ve always wanted to write? Take up a new hobby?
This revolves around being engaged.
When we feel engaged in actively creating our life, we feel in our power. And the things that other people are doing to create their lives don’t seem as threatening. We’re now all on the same get-busy level. And that feels good, better.
Remember, engagement in pursuits that put us in our power means also giving up the things that make us feel stagnant and incapable. Maybe you need to cut back on TV. Or, dial back from phone pressing.
Maybe spend less time on social media in general, or stop hanging out with people who like to gossip.
So now, ask yourself, How can you become more obsessed with your own life, so much so that you don’t even notice what others are doing? And also tune out the noise that isn’t helping your productivity?
2) Put yourself on the hook.
Make yourself accountable for a project in your life from now on. It might be in any form like asking yourself,
What will you announce this week? Maybe it’s that you’re going to host a Youtube Live steam later in the week. Or maybe you’re going to be writing a blog about anything you are passionate about. Maybe joining #100DaysofCode on Twitter Or, that you started an Instagram account for that hobby you love?
What will you put yourself on the hook for … and then … wait for it … follow through on?!
Whenever you’re feeling stagnant, engagement is the move. Creation is the cure. Action is the antidote.
3. Start Waking up Early
This is an easy thing, but the advantages are great if you can do it: start your working day an hour before everyone else.
Use this hour to plan your day and get started before distractions occur.
Similarly, skip long lunches in the office most days and instead take a short break to take a walk or clear your head, with something light and nourishing to keep your blood sugar stable.
You literally give yourself time and energy.
The distractions around us don’t go anywhere, so learning to overcome them is one of the best things you can do for yourself.